Friday, November 7, 2008

Prayers please

It seems like we just got Cassie settled in and now Chris is starting in. 

Cassie's doing very well. Her report card for the first quarter shows an A, 2 B's and 3 C's. Way to go Cassie! She's nearing the end of probation. She started her new job at Domino's yesterday. She's got a boyfriend who is a nice kid and a Christian as well. The prayers, accountability, new school, psychologist appointments and medication are all working together to keep her stable. She meets with her psychiatrist today for the first time in a couple of months. We'll see if they bump up her meds to the next level or leave them the same.

Now we need prayers for Chris. Something is going on with him, but I don't really know what. I just received a phone call from the school that he was involved in some trouble up there. He was kind of on the outside fringes of it, but involved, nonetheless. He'll have a day of in-school suspension and two days of detention for it. But it was a big red flag for the school, as his teacher, the principal, and a couple of others in authority up there said "this is just not like Chris". And it's not. 

But we've noticed some things at home too. Just last night I told mom that one of the things I was hoping for while she was home was the she would see some of what we're dealing with with Chris and hopefully help us figure out what's going on with him and how to help him. He's very angry a lot of the time, disrespectful to us, hyper to the point of annoying, disobedient, smarting off and talking back. It's just not like Chris! And he won't open up to us at all either, so I don't know what's going on! 

Now, it could be adolescence setting in. I understand that as the hormones rage kids can get more sullen and disrespectful. It could also be frustration over the increase in homework and difficulty at school. It could be issues with his friends. I don't know, but I know I don't like it and I want to help him work through this and come out the other side a stronger person, closer to Jesus, and better equipped to handle a frustrating situation than he was before he entered this valley.

I've gleaned from watching that there's some friendship issues, some bullying (with him on the receiving end), some singling-out of him by his classmates as the scapegoat and one to pick on. Everything seems to be a battle with him. It's so frustrating! I've been praying hard for him lately, that this spirit of anger and frustration that seems to have a hold over him would be released! The Chris I know is a boy who loves to help others, encourage with words and hugs, have people like him and approve of him. All of those things seem to have gone out the window recently. I'm praying that they will return! Please join me in praying for discernment and wisdom for us and his teachers, for the binding of whatever has gotten ahold of him, and for the Holy Spirit to return in full force in my sweet child's heart. 

I so appreciate the support you all give. Have a wonderful weekend!


kimkbidwell said...

Hey....just read your post. I was praying against this for Chris. I am just going to speak what is on my heart. I hope it doesn't offend. I don't mean it that way. I wonder if it has to do with all the things Cassie did and "seemed" to get away with and he saw it and knew it was wrong but she was doing it anyway...boy i am gonna be disjointed here, the thoughts are flooding my brain and i am not sure how to put them out there right...but ya know...he was left alone alot to deal with her and the issues..maybe he has anger over that? I don't know...maybe he feels he will get away with it too? I am so sorry you are dealing with this with him. I was so hoping he'd see things differently. Maybe through all of Cassies stuff he felt ignored? I would see if he'd talk to pastor kenny or if he'd talk to me or mike...not sure if he would..but we are willing to help if we can. I know the anger thing is common in boys....i see it in jake sometimes...easily frustrated and tears. I don't know...i hope some of this makes sense, helps and maybe gives a lightbulb moment to the insides of it all. I will surely be praying. Love to you all!!

Jen said...

I'll be praying for Chris to find his way through the issues he's going through.